Uh oh, are you practicing for divorce before even getting married? That is the question only premarital counseling can help you answer. You see, the importance of premarital counseling can save you from asking yourself, “Why did I get married?” and helps equip you with the tools so you can maintain marital bliss in a loving, positive way.
To be honest, we all come to the table with our own baggage, beliefs, and yes, the big “T-word”: Trauma. Getting married won’t make any of the problems you have, such as loneliness, anger or immaturity, magically disappear.
So, does counseling mean your relationship is in danger? No, it doesn’t have to.
The reality is, couples who receive premarital counseling may increase their chances of marital success by 30 percent. Being proactive instead of reactive is the best way to ensure your marriage will be a strong and happy one.
With that said, here are three reasons you should, without a doubt, add premarital counseling to your wedding planning list.
Reason #1: Premarital Counseling Teaches You How to Combat Unforeseen Pitfalls
When two dynamic forces come together to form one brilliant power couple, what worked as individuals will have to be renegotiated in your new united front.
Now, counseling can help you collaborate better on common goals. A few areas typically discussed are:
- Beliefs & values
- Finances
- Communication styles
- Children: Having them? & Raising them
- Quality time, sex & affection
- Conflict resolution
- Decision-making styles
- Roles in marriage & extended families
Reason #2: Premarital Counseling Guides You on How to Fight Fair
Don’t be the spouse who’s still punishing their last partner by fighting dirty with the one that’s in your life now. Getting clear on your own triggers, so you don’t snap while learning how NOT to press your partner’s buttons is an added bonus of premarital counseling.
Learn conflict resolution skills to help you surrender the winner-loser mentality for a win-win model, so you both can feel seen and heard as you work through problems together.
Reason #3: Premarital Counseling Gives You the Tools to Build a Healthy, Loving Marriage that Lasts
One of the sighs of relief in premarital counseling is realizing the struggles you’re facing are some many other couples have. These roadblocks or detours on your road to happily-ever-after are quite common.
Developing coping mechanisms for your marriage makes it easier to feel and stay connected to one another, and can also lead to more pleasurable boom-boom in the bedroom.
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Getting married (and staying married) is a process. Exploring who you are as an individual and how you and your partner can coexist before you say “I do” will save you heartache and pain. Learn from my life-changing lessons in self-love and marriage, click here.
