It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to understand that navigating in-law relationships after getting married can be, well, tricky.
With movies like “Monster-In-Law,” sitcoms, and social media posts focusing on couples’ difficulties with their in-laws, this can be a challenging part of post-nuptial life.
Let’s not even waste any time – let’s get straight into how you can master in-law relationships as a newlywed:
Establish and Stick to Boundaries
Just like with blended families, the biggest thing you can stand ten toes on is your boundaries when it comes to in-laws.
In-laws often have their own challenges with their children getting married, and as a result, may not be aware that their behavior isn’t working for you.
It’s not uncommon to hear of in-laws “overstepping their boundaries.”
Talk to your partner about what is and isn’t okay when it comes to your parents’ actions and ensure you are a united front.
As far as boundaries, remember that sometimes expressing your feelings may not be enough. Stick to your boundaries and let your actions match what you express.
Keep Communicating
Communication is key when managing in-law relationships.
You’ll need to continually communicate with your partner about what works and doesn’t work for you. And there will likely need to be some compromise.
Keep an open mind, but never make yourself smaller to maintain peace.
Similarly, you’ll need to communicate with your parents and in-laws, as well. Make an effort to do this across the board, and often.
If communication is difficult, work with your partner to understand pain points and create an action plan to help solve issues and prevent future ones.
Look for Common Ground
Comparison is the thief of joy. When it comes to your in-laws, it may be easy to compare their behaviors to that of your own family, but resist the urge to do this if you can.
Instead, look for common ground.
Do you have shared interests, passions, or values?
Let those serve as the North Star for your relationship with them. Spend time getting to know your in-laws, as well, so that you can start the relationship off on the right foot.
In particular, find time for 1:1 moments with them to develop stronger bonds.
If you find yourself stuck, remember, you’re not alone. Seek support from a professional to help navigate post-wedding life challenges with ease.
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